I met Bob sixteen years ago, at a conference in California. Improbably so, because we only lived a few miles apart, here in Delaware. I liked him immediately and we became fast friends.
He helped me start this business debt relief and turnaround management consultancy a short time later. Bob was an expert mediator and arbitrator and has provided free advice and counsel ever since.
I discovered Bob’s pride in his Irish ancestry and heard the story of his trip to County Mayo, the home of his paternal ancestors. And about his law school experiences at Penn. His teaching at Widener. His work in legal practice. His experience as a Superior Court judge. And his involvement in Delaware party politics. All of this discussed with a characteristically deep chuckle.
When Bob’s wife, Mona, called me two days ago to inform me of his death, it was like a punch in the gut. Bob’s health had been deteriorating. But it was a shock, nevertheless.
While becoming concerned about Mona’s immediate anguish and needs, the selfish thought entered my head that I no longer have my mentor to depend on.
For a while, after starting out in 1995, I got into the habit of name dropping. “I work with Judge O’Hara”, I would say. It comforted me to do so, as do my memories of him. I will always draw upon my recollection of his perspective and wisdom, when faced with particularly contentious situations.
The death of anyone who has lived a well spent live is terribly sad to family and friends. But it’s also a celebration. And in Bob’s case, he truly has left a positive and enduring mark. You only have to visit the courthouse, to speak with those who knew him. Or to attorneys who worked with him in his law practice or appeared before him, in court.
In short, Bob was interested in everything and everyone. And because of this interest, and his kind nature, he himself was deeply interesting and fascinating.
I will miss Bob. I’ll really miss him. I’ll miss his wisdom, counsel and friendship. I’ve shed a few tears. But rather than becoming consumed with grief, I prefer to celebrate his life. Because, after all, he has had such a positive impact on so many.
He is loved, respected, appreciated and remembered. And for any of us, when we reach the inevitable end of our lives, what could be better than that?